The desire to forgive is the most generous, humble and empathic way that humanity has to separate itself things, people and / or situations, thus, a lightness is installed in your mind and heart.
The fact that we have hurts and blame others or ourselves for a certain posture reveals how much we create expectations and then demonstrates that our controlling part needs to be in charge, "whatever the cost". We direct a lot of energy in this context and, if something goes wrong, we are disappointed and blame ourselves or blame others for failure.
Guilt then becomes an extension of the "inability" to get it right, resolved, solved ... and carries with it a false sense of compensation, there is usually a substitution of the place of defeat for guilt. The repercussion of this is a poorly assimilated experience that configures or reconfigures limiting beliefs related to intra and interpersonal relationships and, mainly, to their capacity for fulfillment, courage in the face of life and the risks inherent in the act of living.
The biggest difficulty is to realize that, in reality, this guilt is heavy and goes on curbing different areas of life, after all, to carry something very heavy, we need a lot of energy, strength, disposition… with this, little or not consciously, we leave things and / or people aside, goals, ..., generating low vitality and self-esteem, ..., "weakness" to perform usual activities at home and / or at work, drop in immunity, ... symptoms start to appear in the physical body ... , that is, a chain of internal saboteurs gains space and everything seems to be out of balance right now.
Do you carry great guilt within you? Change it now
Guilt imprisons the mind, forgiveness brings to light the conscience the need to be free and direct our energies towards what is light, impels, brings meaning, love and humility.
If you are feeling this way, if you started to notice this loss of energy, reflect on the guilt or the act of blaming others, practice self-forgiveness, forgive the one who did something not so positive and understand something very important: what is on the other you leave with the other, what is yours stays with you, that is, add only what makes sense for your evolution as a person, as a professional, leave all the “rest” that does not add to you with the one who speaks, feels , choose to be this way; separate what is yours, what touches you, what you still need to learn what you have no reason to achieve, either because you "passed the stage" / learned, or because it is someone else's profile not yours, or because you don't you believe it is right ... listen to your intuition more and you will understand how to conduct this process.
The other is in a different stage of consciousness, maturity, evolution / learning than you do, so don't require me to think and / or behave like you, we are all fallible ... even you. Respect the space, the choices, the life of the other ... respect yourself, give space in your heart to compassion.